As the title suggests, I just had the most epic epiphany ever (I really wanted to say that):
Blogs are like relationships. Or the reverse. (It's really a chicken and egg type of situation, if you know what I mean?)
But think about it. When you first start-up a blog, there's that frenzied passion. That need to constantly revisit and rework things, little tweaks here and there, to make sure it seems just perfect. That compulsion to go back every day, write, even if just a little. Change that one word that just doesn't seem to fit in. That smile brought on by a well-written post, the joy of that first comment.
Gradually, as you settle down, the blog becomes just another regular feature in your routine, something that must be done, more out of habit than anything else. Every once in a while, there'll be that comment that'll make your day but that's about it. Too many posts, too many comments, eh. Who'll bother to keep track. But somewhere there is still that comfort, that sense of belonging, that feeling of reassurance that only old things can provide. And on your worst days, it's the only thing that seems to make a difference. An outlet for your anger, a vent for your frustration and above all, the relief of being able to express yourself without being judged.
And then the cracks start to appear. Days of writing missed for other, more interesting things. Just a few days at first, and then gradually weeks, months, maybe even years.
Except it is at this point that the two diverge like the fork in a path. Relationships, taking that road much travelled, end. Clean break or messy ending, lingering feelings of love or ones of extreme disgust, it's all part of the package. Blogs, on the other hand, are more forgiving, more understanding. Just when you think you're beyond redemption, they reel you back in. You can pick up right from where you left off. No questions asked. A fresh start each time.
This is particularly amusing to me because I'd almost reached the last stage, the cracks seemingly getting wider every day. And just as I thought I would become one of those people whose last post dates more than a year back, I had this epiphany. I guess there's another thing that blogs and relationships share in common then - their unpredictability!
Blogs are like relationships. Or the reverse. (It's really a chicken and egg type of situation, if you know what I mean?)
But think about it. When you first start-up a blog, there's that frenzied passion. That need to constantly revisit and rework things, little tweaks here and there, to make sure it seems just perfect. That compulsion to go back every day, write, even if just a little. Change that one word that just doesn't seem to fit in. That smile brought on by a well-written post, the joy of that first comment.
Gradually, as you settle down, the blog becomes just another regular feature in your routine, something that must be done, more out of habit than anything else. Every once in a while, there'll be that comment that'll make your day but that's about it. Too many posts, too many comments, eh. Who'll bother to keep track. But somewhere there is still that comfort, that sense of belonging, that feeling of reassurance that only old things can provide. And on your worst days, it's the only thing that seems to make a difference. An outlet for your anger, a vent for your frustration and above all, the relief of being able to express yourself without being judged.
And then the cracks start to appear. Days of writing missed for other, more interesting things. Just a few days at first, and then gradually weeks, months, maybe even years.
Except it is at this point that the two diverge like the fork in a path. Relationships, taking that road much travelled, end. Clean break or messy ending, lingering feelings of love or ones of extreme disgust, it's all part of the package. Blogs, on the other hand, are more forgiving, more understanding. Just when you think you're beyond redemption, they reel you back in. You can pick up right from where you left off. No questions asked. A fresh start each time.
This is particularly amusing to me because I'd almost reached the last stage, the cracks seemingly getting wider every day. And just as I thought I would become one of those people whose last post dates more than a year back, I had this epiphany. I guess there's another thing that blogs and relationships share in common then - their unpredictability!
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Woooooooot!
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